Intimate Partner Violence

What is Intimate Partner Violence?

Intimate partner violence (IPV), often referred to as domestic or dating violence, is a recurring pattern of behavior used to assert dominance and control over another individual. This form of abuse manifests in various ways, encompassing physical, emotional, sexual, and economic abuse, in addition to tactics such as threats, stalking, surveillance, isolation, and intimidation.  While women are more frequently targeted, men and individuals in the LGBTQIA+ community also experience violence perpetrated by an intimate partner.  The FSAO is committed to providing support and assistance to all employees impacted by IPV.

Warning Signs of Abuse

Are you with someone who…

  • Puts you down?
  • Scares you or loses their temper quickly?
  • Hits, pushes, chokes, restrains, or physically harms you (or your children or pets) in any way?
  • Pressures you or forces you to have sex?
  • Threatens to disclose personal/sensitive information (LGBTQIA+ status, immigration status)?
  • Is jealous and possessive, checks up on you, or won’t accept breaking up?
  • Prevents you or makes it difficult for you to see family and friends?
  • Takes your money or won’t let you have access to money?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, or if you are worried about someone close to you who may be experiencing abuse, we can help.

How can the Faculty & Staff Assistance Office help?

The FSAO provides free, confidential services to those affected by IPV including:

  • Counseling and advocacy
  • Safety planning
  • Referrals to community resources
  • With permission, consultation and coordination with BUPD, Human Resources, and other campus resources.
  • The FSAO also provides consultation to managers who express concern regarding employees who have disclosed or exhibited potential indications of involvement in relationship violence.  See Intimate Partner Violence in the Workplace (hyperlink to be added) for additional information.

Sexual Misconduct and Title IX

Experiences of relationships violence, including sexual harassment, involving campus community members may constitute violations of Title IX, the federal law prohibiting discrimination on the basis of sex.  The FSAO is a confidential resource and is not mandated to report potential Title IX violations to University officials.  FSAO counselors can assist employees who are seeking information about reporting options and/or seeking support for reporting to the BU Equal Opportunity Office.

Additional Resources

If you are in immediate danger, call the police:

24 Hour Hotlines

Other Resources and Information

Sexual Misconduct and Title IX Violations at Boston University

See also Intimate Partner Violence in the Workplace