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There are 11 comments on POV: What Does It Mean When We Say #MeToo?

  1. I’m not understanding what exactly a Twitter hashtag is all that useful for, other than jumping on the bandwagon and trying to draw attention to yourself without actually accomplishing anything. How about actually reporting sexual assault to the police when it happens so that rapists get arrested and have a criminal record. It seemed to have been an open secret in Hollywierd that Harvey Weinstein was a rapist, the same with Bill Cosby but no one comes forward and as a result more women are victimized, why?

    1. There is a tremendous amount of shame and pain that accompanies being a victim of sexual violence. There is also a harsh cultural climate that tends to blame the victim and make excuses for the perpetrator. It is emotionally painful and socially dangerous to make a report because your are exposing yourself to harsh criticism regardless of the facts of the situation. So there is the original trauma of the violence that is difficult enough to deal with. Then there is the trauma of the reporting which forces you to re-live this experience. Then there are the threats and attacks to the victims character. And the conclusion is that many of the reports of sexual violence do not lead to a conviction because it is difficult to prove is most circumstances. There is power in numbers. It is not that these victims are jumping on the #metoo bandwagon. It’s that that they are finally feeling just safe enough to tell the truth.

    2. (http://www.cnn.com/2016/09/02/us/brock-turner-release-jail/index.html)

      This is why women aren’t apt to come forward. Because when we do – the rapist is highlighted as a “good swimmer” with a bright future who shouldn’t “pay for 20 minutes of action”. He left his victim beaten, raped, and unconscious behind a dumpster. Want to know the kicker? He served 3 months in jail. He is already free to roam and offend again.

      People don’t even think about how every single time a victim comes forward, they’re questioned, asked to relive their horrible experience, to then have to testify against the person who ruined their lives, live with the pain, the unrest, the terror, and fear. And in most cases then be blamed for what they were wearing, what their mental state was, if they provoked it, etc. Or, like in the case I provided above – go through all of that and see their attacker only serve 3 months out of a possible 14 year maximum.

      How many years do you think Weinstein will do? Or Bill Cosby as you mentioned? What about Jonny Depp or even Trump for that matter? What about the dozens of NFL players that abuse and assault women and don’t even receive so much as a suspension never mind sit in a court? These men have power. And they use their power and fame to oppress women. Watch this video – see and hear the way Weinstein manipulates these women, using his power in the industry to ruin their careers if they don’t do his sexual bidding (http://www.cnn.com/2017/10/15/entertainment/me-too-twitter-alyssa-milano/index.html). The most powerful thing about that video is that it’s clear he has an MO, and it is clear that he has done this many, many times before. As you mentioned, it was well known throughout Hollywood. Nobody did anything about it – because that is the society we live in. Where assault and rape culture are normal. Especially in the entertainment business where men are viewed as superior to women. People would rather shrug it off than risk their careers.

      I could go on – but I hope that this sheds some light on why women or men or victims of any kind are hesitant to come forward and why men like Weinstein and Cosby go uncontested for so long.

  2. Thanks for the insight. I don’t spend much time on social media these days but still did not escape noticing the buzz around the Me Too hashtag. I feel much more informed. I am glad that sexual violence is being discussed on a broader scale. I hope more people find safe places to share because sharing can be very risky but very therapeutic.

    1. “safe places to share” After the fact and after someone came forward. Time to jump on the bandwagon! Many of these women valued their show business careers more than stopping Weinstein and other Hollywood bigwigs.

      1. I am just glad that attention is being given to this wide spread problem. That is the first step to reducing incidents like this one. These women are brave despite knowing that people will be more critical of their character than the man that used his power to sexually exploit them.

      2. It is not very nice to describe a person who admits to being raped or assaulted as jumping on a bandwagon.

        I might add that where many people are assaulted in their adolescence/early adulthood, they may require time to process and
        mature before they can fully articulate the event and decide on the best next step for themselves.

        There is no problem with strength in numbers to help people heal and to help this systemic issue evolve. Alternatively, those who choose to remain silent have the right to their privacy.

  3. #metoo? You betcha. All the women in my life agree it’s endemic, including my five daughters. For myself, I didn’t need Harvey Weinstein to see a rape culture in television and movies – it’s been there since the diner scene in When Harry Met Sally. So I support special protections for women because it seems they have distinct vulnerability with regard to men, and I think I agree black women are particularly vulnerable. However it is contingent on feminists to reconcile any need-based claim to special protection with feminism’s projection of sexual equality, which often insists women’s sexual proclivities must be the same (predatory rapacity) as men’s, and that women have no gender-based vulnerability impeding them from military combat roles.

    1. Special Protection? asking men not to rape and ceasing to perpetuate rape culture does not “special protection” make.
      Women have no gender-based vulnerability impeding them from military combat roles, everyone is vulnerable to rape regardless of gender, it is men’s inclination to rape and sexually assault that is the issue.

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