Steve Sisto

in Spring 2015, Student's Blog
April 2nd, 2015

How To Network As An Introvert

By Steve Sisto
Spring 2015

If you’re an introvert like me, then the idea of networking is absolutely terrifying. As an introvert, social interaction is already difficult. Why in the world would I want to go out of my way to meet new people and be social? I think I’ll just stay with my small group of friends, enclosed from everyone else… If only that were possible. The truth is that in D.C., networking is simply a part of life. For introverts like me, this is terrible news.

So, if you do happen to be an introvert, then I know what you’re probably thinking: how does one even be social? Here are some tips to help you network:

1. Dress comfortably: chances are you’re already freaking out about having to actually talk to people; the last thing you want is to worry about how you look. You don’t have to wear your most expensive clothes, but you should wear the clothes that you feel most confident in.
2. Body language: at networking events, it’s important that you don’t look like you’re miserable. I understand that you might not really want to talk to anyone, but try your best not to look that way. At events like this, you might as well make the most of it. So, look like you’re having fun! If you’re standing, then make sure to hold your head high. And definitely keep your posture. Also, try not to pace around too much. Claim a spot of your own, and at least appear inviting. If you’re sitting down, then make sure you aren’t hunched over with your arms on the table. Sit back with your arms outstretched, and you’ll automatically look like you’re relaxed. And if you really don’t want anyone to come up to you, then you can put a second drink in the seat next to you, so that it looks like you’re waiting for someone to come back (please don’t resort to this… go be social!)
3. Have a drink (if you’re over 21): for some reason having a drink in your hand makes you appear more sociable, so you might as well take advantage of that. Also, having a drink or two makes you feel relaxed. Definitely take advantage of that. But if you do to choose to drink, know your limits!
4. Have a plan: if you know the people who are going to be at the event, then research them. If you can ask them a specific question about their past, that immediately makes you look good. Also, make sure to have your own talking points prepared. As hard as it might be, you’re going to have to talk about yourself eventually. When that happens, there’s nothing worse than not having anything to say. So, come up with little anecdotes that you can fire off when needed. Finally, set rules. Make a commitment to talk to a certain amount of people, and stick to it. Once you fulfill that number, then allow yourself to leave (who knows, you might even want to stay!)
5. Have fun: contrary to popular belief, introverts can be social. Reach out to people, and try to find someone with whom you can have an easy conversation. Make sure to leave on a good note, comfortable with how you did. When you get back home, send quick follow-up notes to the people you met. And finally, wind down and reward yourself for a great networking performance!
   

   Contrary to popular belief, introverts are not anti-social. Go out there and network like a boss! Photo courtesy of imgflip.com

Steve Sisto is an introverted broadcast journalism senior interning at Tokyo Broadcasting.