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There are 9 comments on POV: What about the “B” in LGBT+?

  1. Thank you for writing this, Danielle! I appreciate your thoughts about the double discrimination, in particular. It is disheartening to see bisexual people and their needs overlooked or discounted time and time again, especially during Pride. I hope we can all grow in our understanding of human sexuality and advocate for each other in the LGBTQ community.

    I created a website last year about this exact issue:
    It’s still a work in progress, but I think it may be interesting to your readers who may want to learn more about the theory behind issues of bi erasure and biphobia.

    Other great resources:
    Bisexual Resource Center (based in Boston),

    BiNet USA,

    Bi Women Boston,

  2. A very important topic that you wrote about very well. This hit me hard, as I’m Bi and have definitely experienced biphobia and bi erasure. I actually didn’t know the statistics for being in an abusive relationship, but I was in a previous one. And even now, in my healthy relationship my boyfriend will go on about me being lesbian, and saying that I’m not actually bi because I haven’t been with a woman. So thank you so much for writing this, and hopefully everyone will do better with acceptance in the future.

  3. As a member of the bi community, I thoroughly enjoyed this article. Super informative & it feels nice to be represented in a positive way – even if the stats and facts are a bummer. Big appreciation for this article and for the author for tackling this issue. Stuff like this gives me (and I’m certain the rest of the community) hope. Thank you!

  4. Great article for helping non-bisexuals, whether they are queer or not, understand some of the struggles that our under-represented population goes through! Thanks for writing and giving bisexuals a voice about these issues!

  5. I live in Boston and I travel the U.S. and beyond speaking about bisexual identity. I have a program on Challenging Biphobia, and another on Bisexual Health, and more. Every time I come across something thoughtful written about bisexuality, I feel a sense of relief. So thank you for this.

    PS: The comments, too, are unusually thoughtful, useful, kind, and coherent.

    Robyn Ochs, @robynochs

  6. The worst part about bi exclusion, biphobia and gatekeeping at pride is the fact that we created it! A Bisexual woman by the name of Brenda howard organized week long events and created the first pride and is known as the mother of pride, yet bi flags are seen the least. There’s a lack of representation and respect, acknowledgement and welcoming.
    In fact this year’s been the worst for erasure as everyone has been saying the first pride was a riot and re crediting it to stonewall.

    No! The first pride was not a riot. There’s difference between a pride parade and a riot. And Brenda howard a bisexual creates it. Stonewall got all of it’s just due credit, but do not dare dismiss and rewrite history and erase bisexuals and contributions.

  7. Yup, it can be very unfortunate for bisexuals who are the backbone of the community to constantly be overlooked or seen as less than in the community they helped create.

    There are no sapphic bi bars for wlw to go and be safe and secure in. There are no bi boy bars. Now I actually wouldn’t want There to be that. I don’t think we need hyper seperate arenas, however, the point is bisexuals can only go into what’s known as gay or lesbian bars in order to be part of the queer community and socialize and meet potential partners.

    Going into a queer space is absolutely nerve racking and then being immediately ostracized and picked apart is traumatic. I’m an experienced wlw, but I’m not going to give a body count to some toxic women starring at me skeptically because she wants to gage my gayness. That’s gross.

    Bisexuals just want to be able to meet connect, make friends like anyone else, fall in love naturally. We experience homophobia from straights, and biphobia from lesbians and gays.

    We also can’t control which way we lean. Not every bi has a bi cycle or goes back n forth or is in the middle. A mostly gay or gay leaning bisexual does not have straight privilege. And even those in straight relationships don’t have the kind if privilege people think they do.

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