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There are 3 comments on YouSpeak: Can Men and Women Be Just Friends?

  1. I’d just like to point out how heteronormative this is. Some men aren’t attracted to women. Some women aren’t attracted to men. Some people don’t identify as men or as women. Some people are attracted to people of a variety of genders. Are they then not able to have friends?

    1. “Harry’s” premise in the movie clip is that a man WHO IS ATTRACTED TO A WOMAN can’t just be a friend. “Sally’s” response is that a woman can be just a friend.

      By ‘Harry’s” definition, it is the man identifying as a man who cannot be friends WHEN SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to someone – the object of “his” attraction is irrelevant.

      It is the heteronormative self-identification as a man which is explicitly the point of “Harry’s” argument.

    2. “Heteronormative” is, by statistical definition, the 98% solution. Without a sexual dynamic, there is no question to ask. For instance, “Can Gay men and Women Be Just Friends?” Duhhh! However, “Can Gay Men and Straight Men Be Just Friends?” is a legitimate (and intriguing) question. But considering that only around 2% of the population identifies themselves as gay, the YouSpeak query was on the mark.

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