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There are 13 comments on Talking about Alcohol and Sexual Violence

  1. Well done, BU (and BARCC, BPD, BUPD, and the local bars that attended)! It’s encouraging to hear that some of the hot spot bars around campus showed up to this kind of event. It’s too bad there weren’t more of them, and the hope is that the bar staff really gets the information when repeated second-hand.

    One thing I wish was addressed, though, is that even if a sexual crime is premeditated by the perpetrator to some degree, it doesn’t mean they themselves aren’t under the influence too. Some of the more subtle approaches bars use to alert a perpetrator to the fact that their behavior is being noticed could easily be lost. I appreciated Carew’s point that sometimes you just have to be to the point. I wish that happened more at bars where guys, usually the falling-over-their-own-feet drunk ones, won’t leave a girl alone.

  2. Well done, BU (and BARCC, BPD, BUPD, and the local bars that attended)! It’s encouraging to hear that some of the hot spot bars around campus showed up to this kind of event. It’s too bad there weren’t more of them, and the hope is that the bar staff really gets the information when repeated second-hand.

    One thing I wish was addressed, though, is that even if a sexual crime is premeditated by the perpetrator to some degree, it doesn’t mean they themselves aren’t under the influence too. Some of the more subtle approaches bars use to alert a perpetrator to the fact that their behavior is being noticed could easily be lost. I appreciated Carew’s point that sometimes you just have to be to the point. I wish that happened more at bars where guys, usually the falling-over-their-own-feet drunk ones, won’t leave a girl alone.

  3. Was the girl in that second picture seriously wearing something like that to a bar and didn’t expect that some creep would be attracted to her? Hopefully it was one of those stupid dramatizations….

  4. A woman is NEVER at fault in the case of rape. It isn’t because she dressed a certain way or acted a certain way, it’s because she encountered a rapist. Rape is unforgivable and we need to promote intolerance of the act rather than saying a girl deserved what happened to her or acting like she’s responsible in any way. I appreciate the language in this article because it doesn’t imply any of that, which is a refreshing change from all the victim-blaming coverage of rape cases in the media lately. Women shouldn’t have to cover themselves up or feel unsafe when they go out. There’s no excuse for it and I’m glad these people are working toward making this a safer environment for everyone.

  5. To add to the previous comment, no victim of rape is at fault, man, woman, transgender person, etc. Rape isn’t about sexual attraction, so what some one’s wearing or some one’s actions should not be seen as causing arousal some one can’t control. That’s a really dangerous and damaging misconception. It’s generally about power, control and committing an act of violence. Whether it’s harassment on the street or rape at a party or bar, women are constantly being terrorized and treated like their bodies are public property. This needs to stop, so it’s good to see some one taking steps to eradicate this behavior.

  6. The BARCC workshop is a great idea to promote awareness of the role that alcohol plays in sexual violence.

    However, I have a major problem with the subhead: “Local bar staff get primer on how to prevent rape.” There’s only one way to “prevent rape,” and that’s “DON’T RAPE OTHER PEOPLE.”

  7. This rape thing has gone too far. “Bartenders learning how to prevent rape.” Give me a break. How noble of you to have such a ridiculous article about an absurd undertaking in on your site. I know. I’ll go out to West 71st street and Columbus Ave now and ask each male to reassure me that they will never rape anyone. Won’t I look cool and won’t everyone think I am issue-oriented and involved. BTW, why are all the posts anonymous except MINE?

  8. Clothes (or lack of them) are NEVER an invitation to rape. I have been to many naked and partially naked parties where everyone sincerely expects everyone else to be safe from sexual assault. Sitting naked, cross-legged, face to face with another naked person is often an invitation to CONSENTUAL sex, but even then it’s an invitation that can be withdrawn at any time, it’s not a promise.

  9. Kudos to the bar staff who attended this session. This is important information for staff to know and I believe that concerned bystanders are a major part of the solution to the problem of sexual assault on college campuses.

  10. Well done BU. I am happy to report that as of this January, local bars are still upholding these guidelines. Bartenders at Commonground have asked my permission to receive a drink paid for by other guys. Thanks!

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