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YouSpeak: Helicopter Parents

Students rate parents on how much they hover


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In our new weekly feature, “YouSpeak,” we ask students to answer a single question. Here’s this week’s topic: “Do you have helicopter parents, and if so, what do they do to keep tabs on you?” Judging by these students’ comments, choppers fly low over BU.

“YouSpeak” appears each Monday.

If you have a suggestion for a question we should ask, post it in the comments section below.

Leslie Friday can be reached at lfriday@bu.edu; follow her on Twitter at @lesliefriday. Nicolae Ciorogan can be reached at ciorogan@bu.edu.



8 Comments on YouSpeak: Helicopter Parents

  • Anonymous on 09.27.2010 at 8:30 am

    Where is this music from? Which movie?

  • Anonymous on 09.27.2010 at 10:16 am

    Where are these helicopter parents when their kids are binge drinking and hugging the commode?

  • Anonymous on 09.27.2010 at 2:28 pm

    “i dont have helicopter parents” -words of wisdom from camillo burr

  • Leigh Ann on 09.27.2010 at 8:19 pm

    it is called parents who care about their children, not hover, you know they are there for you

  • Donna P on 09.28.2010 at 12:09 pm


    when you hear a helicopter, you stop and listen and sometimes look for it. That can be a good thing for kids away from home, to just stop, look and listen before they take the next step

  • Anonymous on 10.05.2010 at 4:56 pm

    Helicopter Parent's

    I have a feeling my daughter thinks we are helicopter parents, but if I did not keep an on the money we provide for her she would not have any left to pay the rent or eat. She is a sophmore and still can’t budget her money. She thinks we have a money tree in the back yard. When I show concern for her she things I am being annoying. Shoot me for caring!

  • Anonymous on 10.08.2010 at 4:52 pm

    Most parents...

    Parents do care about their children, as they should. But there is a fine line here at BU between “caring,” and “hovering.”
    When a parent calls to inquire about what their son or daughter should do in regards to a tiff with a roommate, or who they should talk to about their son or daughter’s malfunctioning appliances, or where that package is that they sent them two and half days ago, express! These are times when, sadly, a parent is hovering, and believe it or not, is an embarassment.
    The students that attend BU are very intelligent, very competent, and this should be respected by all parents. By calling and doing the grunt work of tracking down who to call, who’s to blame, or who to berate for lack of attention, the parent is taking the responsability off of their offspring, and clinging desperately to what little bit of control they have left in their children’s lives.
    It’s a hard transition for parents who have watched this person grow from a helpless little baby into this amazing young man or woman and now suddenly have little say or control over what their son or daugther does. It’s also hard for the son or daughter, who suddenly has to be accountable for their finances, their personal records, their relationships here on campus, their broken appliances, and their sluggish postal deliveries.
    By a parent constantly barging into the “BU realm” of their son or daughter’s world, it doens’t allow the student to grow, to mature, and to be held accountable for themselves.
    BU students are no longer children, they attend a University, and while yes, they will always need their parents, and lets be honest, not a day goes by when they aren’t thinking of you, this is their time to grow and discover and become “themselves.” You’ve had YOUR time with them, now give them what they deserve: THEIR time.

  • BU parent on 08.01.2011 at 2:50 pm


    Gee, do you have to be so disrespectful of parents? I think we were able to raise our sons and daughters to the point where they can attend college. (and we pay for this college education) Why does BU have to engage in such a negative stereotype of parents of college students. These are the same students whom the university will ask for parent involvement if there is any significant problem. We are in the business of raising our children to be independent adults and you are in the business off educating them. This “helicopter parent” label is almost a sneer against parents and seems to promote alienation from parents at a time when college students could benefit from the support of family.

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