Dean of Students

February 6

Acknowledgment and Appreciation

Love

by Elizabeth Barrett Browning

We cannot live, except thus mutually

We alternate, aware or unaware,

The reflex act of life: and when we bear

Our virtue onward most impulsively,

Most full of invocation, and to be

Most instantly compellant, certes, there

We live most life, whoever breathes most air

And counts his dying years by sun and sea.

But when a soul, by choice and conscience, doth

Throw out her full force on another soul,

The conscience and the concentration both make

mere life, Love. For Life in perfect whole

And aim consummated, is Love in sooth,

As nature’s magnet-heat rounds pole with pole.

 

Much love to our students. As always, we asked for the best and got better. (Even though the other team won.) Thank you.

Peace.

February 1

What Are You Doing For The Game? A Safe Super Bowl Sunday

How about some football, American-style. One game and lots of spectacle. Even better when the local guys are playing for the trophy.

I love the mid-air extended catches and when the smaller guys break through the line to stop a play.  Give me the thrill of a returned punt. Most important, I am a connoisseur of trash-talking, color commenting, celebrating, and drama – in the stands and on the screen.  This Sunday, I get to watch my hometown play the hometown. We like the gathering – getting together with others to watch the big game.  Since I can’t play, I just appreciate being with friends and enjoying snacks that I shouldn’t eat.

Have you got somewhere to watch the game? We’re getting together on Sunday at Agganis – our treat. Join us!


Watch this video on YouTube

If you can’t make it over to the Arena, then you must do me a favor: get together with someone; watch the game (or the commercials); have a great time, and – most important – keep yourself safe.

I never understood it, but you know there’s always “those guys” out there who like to break stuff, flip cars, light fires, and provoke cops. Watch out for those guys – they’re usually overly emotional, careless, drunk, and want to fight. Careful, please! (And I hope your team’s win will not turn you in to one of “those guys.”)

Heads up! I know Boston Police will be out in full force around the City, and they’ve issued some warnings here. They’re shutting down Kenmore Square — complete. No cars, bikes, or even pedestrians. (Run-ins with police aren’t my thing, so I plan to stay away from Kenmore for a few hours on Sunday.)

This Sunday, do me that favor! Keep yourself safe and watch your friend’s back.

Hope I see you on Sunday – at Agganis Arena.  If not, Go (insert your team’s name here)!

Note: If you can’t join us on Sunday, here’s some Super Bowl food tips from Sargent professor, Joan Salge Blake:

Super Bowl Sunday foods: MyFoxBOSTON.com

Also, here’s a piece from NECN on our Super Bowl preparations.

January 30

Early Valentine Note: Finding Passion in Pop Culture

I’m on a roll! Lately, I’ve been smitten by podcasts, video, TV shows, commercials, and movies about matchmaking – they share wisdom about finding a date, dating, finding love, and true passion. I’m not about to trash this meme – I find it inspirational. I’m still in the finding passion and love game. Some wisdom about searching for love and passion is in this stuff.

The search for love and passion is bumpy. It means trying on the new. Accepting that you deserve to be elated. And, knowing that your heart will be broken – sorry. Above all, you’ve got to keep trying. Here’s the rest of the secrets I’ve unlocked from the entertainment on dating, relationships, and finding love:

  • Finding your passion, love, or a date is really awkward for everyone involved. Get “comfortable” with it. Own it and you’ll do better.
  • Adages from the street are still important when making that first contact: “Give ‘em a chance to look at you” and “Look ‘em in the eye, but don’t stare”
  • Now is the time to make a decision to be a confident person. The best passion-finders I see or know are able to handle themselves. They let themselves shine; they say what they feel; and, they are real. But what stands out is their confidence.
  • Do you! You’re worthy of attention, love, and having passion in your heart. Be your authentic self. Your game will not work if you’re trying to be someone else or to play a game by someone else’s instruction.
  • Careful not to take advantage of others.
  • Work on being interesting – be in the know about culture, fashion, news, and lifestyle issues. Passion – and a good date or networking session – demands that you’re able to chat with authority.
  • It’s not enough to show a “look.” Get comfortable also showing how you “feel.”

A few simple suggestions for dating and finding another person, but is this the stuff that works for job hunting, figuring out what you want to do with your life, and old-school-face-to-face “networking.”

Peace.

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