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There are 3 comments on Flummoxed by Your Family’s Fortnite Addict?

  1. My 22 yo son has always been a gamer. Its been a battle in our home since he got his Xbox at age 12. But it did not get in the way of his academic/social life until Fortnite came out. Since then, he wasted a semester’s college tuition by not showing up to classes due to gaming all night, sleeping through alarms and mounting anxiety as he fell behind in classes. Taking a break now from college to “figure things out” he only leaves his room for about an hour a day to have dinner with family or drive to McDonalds. Has been in intensive DBT Therapy to work on these issues with only baby steps forward. If you would like to reach out to him, for research purposes, I am sure he would share his thoughts, experiences!

    1. Hi Mary –

      Sorry to hear about this. This seems to be a fairly common situation, and your son is lucky to have access to therapy. The issue we see a lot of the time is that traditional therapy is insufficient, because the week-to-week pace is too slow.

      To combat this, we have created resources for parents. The best one for your situation, since your son is at home and you are actively looking to solve an addictive cycle, might be the Healthy Gamer Action Plan:
      https://regaincontrol.healthygamer.gg/p/healthy-gamer-action-plan-video-games

      The Action Plan will help you and your son get on the same page through an empathetic approach that can condense 16 weeks of therapy into a 4-week timeframe.

      Would you mind emailing me at kruti@healthygamer.gg? I’d love to find out the best way to get in touch with your son, and connect him to our gamer support groups if he’s interested. For gamers, it is crucial that they *want* help. The link to join support groups is here: https://www.healthygamer.gg/supportgroup

  2. Hi Mary,

    Thanks for sharing your experience. We see this combination of issues often, so please know that you and your son are not alone. I have two resources and a request for you:

    Resource 1: For you – The Healthy Gamer Action Plan can condense the therapy timeline. If you’re seeing small incremental progress, it is usually because the weekly therapy model is just too slow. The Action Plan can condense 16-weeks of therapy into a 4-week timeline and support both you and your son: https://regaincontrol.healthygamer.gg/p/healthy-gamer-action-plan-video-games

    Resource 2: For your son – The cyclic nature of escaping into gaming means that it is harder and harder to break. The support of other gamers tends to be the defining point in increasing real-life outcomes like stabilizing mental health, establishing a healthy sleep routine, and recovering academically. There is a certain gamer ethos that enables this, but can also help overcome this. We’d love to connect him to our Healthy Gamer groups. Sign-up is here: https://www.healthygamer.gg/supportgroup

    Request: Please email me at kruti@healthygamer.gg, and we can take this a bit deeper to make sure you’re getting the best support possible.

    Thanks so much for the comment!

    Kruti
    CEO of Healthy Gamer

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